Bullying

What is bullying?

A bully is a person who uses strength and power to coerce or force others by fear.

What kinds of things do bullies do to their victims?
  • Verbal threats.
  • Teasing of name calling.
  • Pushing or prodding.
  • Physical assault with or without a weapon.
  • Extorting money.
  • Racial or sexual harassment.
The signs to look for if your child is being bullied
  • Reluctance to go to school.
  • Truanting from school.
  • Poor attention whilst attending school.
  • Under achievement in school.
  • Sudden and frequent shortage of pocket money which you can't explain.
  • Evidence of cuts and bruises which are not adequately explained.
  • Refusal by child to stay for school dinners.
  • Child requests to change classes, or school.
  • Changes in child's behaviour e.g. thumbsucking, tantrums.
  • Appetite problems.
What can you do to help as a parent if you think your child is being bullied?
 
Talk to your child in a quiet, sympathetic manner and try to find out the problem.
 
Reassure your child that something can be done about it. Do not tell your child to just to put up with bullying.
Write the details down of names, times and places. Find out if bullying is taking place and if it is happening in school.
Make an appointment to see the Head Teacher in school to discuss the problem at a mutually convenient time. Remember that teachers have timetables and may not always be able to see you if you turn up without an appointment.
 
Be prepared to work with the school possibly over a prolonged period of time to improve the situation. There is often no quick solution to bullying.
 
If bullying is happening outside school it is not the responsibility of the school but the school will do what it can to help.
 
If serious bullying with menace and assault is happening outside school it is a matter for the Police and you should contact them.
 
Lonely children and children who are new to an area are sometimes bullied. Teach your child how to make friends. Try to get them involved in groups in school. Tell them to stay with classmates to avoid being bullied. Tell them not to walk home alone.
 
Try to get your child involved in leisure activities, youth clubs, drama, self-defence or sports teams.
Try to get an older child that you know in the area to keep an eye on your child.
 
If you suspect your child is bullying other children it could be because they are being bullied as well.
 
If you suspect your child is being bullied, tell your child to tell the teacher what is happening.
 
"Ignore it and it will go away".

Some popular myths and attitudes about bullying:

  • It's just part of growing up.
  • Boys will be boys.
  • It'll sort itself out.
  • He'll have to learn to take it like a man.
  • It only happens to boys.
  • They have to learn to stand up for themselves.
Some facts about bullying:
  • Children who bully over a prolonged period tend to become involved in other forms of difficult behaviour.
  • Children who are bullied often underachieve in school.
  • Children who bully can acquire a bad reputation which will follow them through school life and may affect their future opportunities.
  • If your child is being excluded from a group or the other children refuse to speak to them this a form of bullying.
What can we do to help?
 
The Governors have ensured that there is a positive approach to the prevention of bullying through the curriculum and other school activities.
The Head Teacher will investigate any suspected cases of bullying and involve the other staff.
 
The school will monitor the situation and make a special effort to keep an eye on your child.
 
Disciplinary action will be taken against the bullies.
 
The School Staff will only be able to prevent bullying if you are prepared to work with them.
 

If you are still not happy with the way the Head Teacher has dealt with the problem you can complain to the Governors of the school who are ultimately responsible for the strategic organisation of the school.   They can be contacted through the school mail address or via the school email address.

 

You might find this link of help in further supporting your child:

 
 
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Broughton Admin,
14 Feb 2013, 02:54